Our bodies change as we grow older, and by the time we hit middle age we might still feel young and fit, but we all too often find to our disappointment that the flaming intensity of our youthful sexuality has faded, and while not gone, has become less of a drive and more of an occasional itch! If this is the case don’t worry, the game is not over and with a little thought and work you might find the increased confidence you have developed as you have aged can be coupled with some decreased inhibitions to bring you a deeper, more nuanced, and satisfying sexual experience, a case of quality over quantity! The following are some tips from a variety of sex experts on how you can keep those lustful fires burning!
The Toy Box – There are always some younger men who scoff at using male sex toys until they try them, then they swear by them! Overall, women tend to be a bit more open-minded and sensible about such things and most will have a vibrator tucked away in their boudoir! The thing is, toys are much more fun to play with when you have a playmate, so use them when you are together for a really fantastic experience! Sharing is caring!
Take Your Time – Those youthful fools tend to rush into their sexual encounters as if it’s now or never, but as you age your sexual responses are going to slow down a bit, but that is not actually a bad thing! Instead of the old wham followed quickly by bam, try taking your time and let things simmer for a while first. Lower the lights, put on some seductive music, and slow dance for a while to let things heat up and for the mood to grow nice and sultry! Make sure this happens on a night when there will be no interruptions, or if you live with a busy family, just check into a hotel where you can be free to feel sexy! Slow and steady wins the race, and after you cross the finish line, you might just find you are still up for another lap or two!
Make Some New Moves – OK, let’s be realistic- don’t expect to be able to go through some tantric pillow book and try every position, unless you happen to be a yoga expert some of the more athletic gyrations may lead to a trip to the hospital instead of the road to ultimate bliss! That said, you should definitely think about changing up your game with some interesting new sexual positions that don’t require handstands or trapezes! Sit down together and go through the picture book to come up with a repertoire of fun new things to try, by the time you are ready to give them a go you will already be aroused just from thinking about what’s going to happen next!
The Play’s The Thing – Although we are all too often taught by stodgy elders to be ashamed of this, the fact is everybody has a secret sexual fantasy and most guard it all their lives as if it’s some terrible curse! Sexual fantasies are natural, everyone has one or more, and now that you are middle-aged you should be mature enough to speak openly about yours with your trusted sex partner! There is nothing to be ashamed of! Once you have established a fantasy that you both feel comfortable with it’s time to act it out! Be sure to use costumes and props if that helps you enter the fantasy world of your desires! Consensual erotic fantasies usually lead to some of the hottest encounters you will ever experience, so go for it!
Sex in middle age is something to be savoured like a fine old wine.